Flying solo vs in group

Some prefer to make it alone, to be a one man band, enjoying a kind of freedom that seems different from the freedom in groups

Being alone or being together

Text and drawing by Frits Ahlefeldt

My grandfather lived alone for many years and when we visited him he would not be happy… in the beginning

After a while he would get used to us being there, smiling more, talking more and coming alive. Missing us when we left, I think.

I come to think of him whenever I meet people who prefer to be alone. There are many things that are both harder and easier when alone. Nobody to take into consideration, nobody to have conflicts with and nobody to tell you what to do…

But the reasons having people around you and flying together can be a challenge, seems somehow to be the same reasons we get lonely when flying all alone in our lives.

Drawing of a bird flying beside a V-formation of birds, flying together. Illustration by Frits Ahlefeldt
The option of flying alone vs together with the flock

Keywords: groups, dynamic, isololation, loneliness, solo, individualism, socializing, psychology, museum of psychology,

About Museum of Psychology – Visualizing psychology
We understand reality at least through a combination of impressions, metaphors, images, stories and experiences. But also through our dreams, understandings, feelings, music, walk of life, directions, expectations, relations… and much more.

Much of this have in common that we can somehow sketch up maps and drawings of these places, trails and situations. Here on Museum of Psychology I (Frits Ahlefeldt) am drawing up a slowly growing map of our many landscapes of understanding.

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